Family Meetings

We have three boys of various ages, and their personalities are so different. We wanted each one to have the opportunity to have their say. And with teenagers, we've found that you have to expose the issues to the entire family so the responsible ones can be held accountable. 

We have rules of sorts. At first, we spelled out the topics and told the kids the agenda. Then we took turns assigning each one to be the chairperson and they were allowed to set the agenda. We would discuss meal, curfews, whatever they had on their mind, whatever they felt was important. One kid drives and he wanted to talk about how much driving time he was getting. One kid is the sergeant at arms, he keeps the time and keeps the peace. 

By the fourth or the fifth meeting the family communication was much better.