Strategies For A Child Who Gives Up Too Easily

In order to survive and thrive in this world, kids need to have a bounce-back kind of concept. Parents need to know that they have some influence, so here are some quick little tips. Before you can have your child do it, you have to model effort yourself so your kids begin to really understand that "stick-to-itness" and not giving up is really part of our whole family fiber. So just consciously start to say something like "you know I'm going to start this. I know it's going to be hard, but I'm just going to keep on going with it until I really do succeed."

Secondly, some families start a "don't give up motto". You may want to find some little mantras that are what your family beliefs are all about…like "try, try again and then you'll win." Or "never give up".

Try one and put it on an index card and put it on your refrigerator. Start using more intentionally encouraging language so your child picks it up himself. We discovered that when children hear that language, very often they begin to internally use it themselves and it really helps them.

A final little tip is to try a "stick to it award" in your own home. You can get a yardstick and a permanent marker and write on it "this is a stick to it award" and it is given to someone who really stuck to something difficult, didn't give up no matter what, and then got to put their initials on the award. Pretty soon lots of initials will fill up the stick and the kids will love it.

A "don't give up attitude" is far more powerful to success than a child's IQ. A child really needs to know in this competitive world that their effort does matter and perseverance is something that we can instill in our children. What a great gift to give to your child because it will last a lifetime!