Big Boy Points

Big Boy Points
I reward my nephew with "big boy points" whenever he does anything that requires a small act of independence. For example putting on his own shoes or getting dressed or going to the bathroom by himself can earn him "big boy points".
I had noticed that when he was around me he always wanted to be held a little bit more or he sort of digressed to this dependency sort of state. So by issuing these "big boy points" he starts doing all of these things on his own. This works really well when we are going out to eat at a restaurant and he starts acting up and wanting to run around. I remind him that if he is quiet and acts like a big boy, he'll gain some points.

We save the points up and he knows that if he behaves and cooperates he will be able to trade these points in eventually for something fun that he is looking forward to. I really like it because it doesn't dwell on his negative behavior, but gives him a reason to act like a "big boy".