Setting Limits For Children

Setting Limits For Children

I realized that with my children that instead of just saying, "No, don't do that," it worked better if I explained why they should not do something or why they should do something. I began explaining or giving reasons for things being restricted when my daughters were very young, even before one year of age. 

Human nature is such that we are curious to know things. Curious to know what's under the sink and curious to know why we shouldn't be there. My children responded better, even when I was setting limits, if I gave a short explanation for the restriction. 

The flip-side of that is to permit your children to explore as much as possible without getting hurt. I think there has to be a balance and sometimes providing an explanation helps give that balance. 

When I gave reasons to my children when they were young I was also encouraging them to develop more complex verbal and cognitive skills. Some parents just use one-syllable words like "no" all the time and this doesn't help the children develop any verbal or cognitive skills.