Making Bathtime Easier

Making Bathtime Easier 

We used a technique called "the bath agreement" and this came about when I would give my young son a bath. He never wanted to get out of the tub and we'd have a big fuss. I had been reading a book about how to deal with your children when they have misbehavior problems and how to work together to find a solution. So, I said to him, "Let's solve this. What can we do to solve this big problem we always have when it's time for you to get out of the tub?" And we just thought of all the solutions we could. Some of them were real silly like he thought maybe he could just stay in the tub as long as he wanted to.

Finally, we settled on an agreement. What we agreed on was that I would ask him if he was ready to get out of the tub and he would always, of course, say "No." Then I would say, "Okay, bath agreement. The next time I ask you it will be time to get out. You can stay in a little bit longer for now." And it worked great. The fusses just ended. I think he felt like he was in charge a little bit, as he could make some of the choices.  He had helped develop this solution to the problem, so I think that was one reason it worked so well with him.